OK so now that I’ve had a chance to cool off and get some perspective, here’s the main reason I left Age of Ultron really pissed off at Joss Whedon (spoilers under the cut)
“Hulk and Widow both have hurt a lot of people in situations that they
couldn’t entirely control and now feel a lot of regret. Yet Banner’s
debilitating guilt is the only one that’s taken seriously–Natasha’s past
crimes don’t even get a mention, as though they’re not nearly
important enough to compete with the enormous significance of her female
biology, or the memory of a seriously gendered violation. Bruce
thinks he’s a monster because of the things he’s done to people. Natasha
thinks she’s a monster because of the things people have done to her.”
This meta is excellent and definitely worth reading.